My name's Deb, how lovely to meet you! I'm so glad you stopped by...

In November 2008 I made my first sock monkey (yep, that's him alright)....and as they say...the rest is history...

In February 2009, Sock It To Me! was born and my life used to consist of Teza by day (Good afternoon, you're speaking to Chaos Control & Crayon Girl, how may i help?) and monkey business by night.

It was very exciting but I left my home and reality for a crazy journey of enlightenment around Asia. So, here I am soaking up the sights and sounds of sunny Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia and working for CLEO, the coolest mag ever. Thanks again for stopping by, sit back, relax and Happy Reading!

xoxo Miss Deb

Thursday, January 8, 2009

When you stop and look around, this life's pretty amazing...

You know...i only moved to Aucks a year or so ago...it seems like such a long time now...
I'd been studying and working in good 'ol balmy Palmy for so long that it was quite a drastic change moving to the big smoke and definately a huge shock to the system. After hearing all the negative stuff people said about Auckland and its inhabitants i was pretty sure i'd hate it and hacked a plan of escape...i would befriend a nakedbus employee so that i could zip up and down the island cheaply each weekend. But alas things don't ever work out as one plans...a relationship of almost 3 years fell apart and i had to toughen up and take on the big bad city all on my own.

What happened was thoroughly unexpected...

As soon as i gave up all the preconceived ideas i fell in love with a place that was teeming with possibilities and buzzing with creative people. Auckland makes me feel like i'm standing on the edge of a cauldron that's bubbling with so much gusto and attitude..

Do you do that too? Make up your mind about something or someone only to find that you were totally and utterly wrong?
Despite the fact that it happens ever so often for me i still need frequent reminders that i don't give my abilities/instincts enough credit...

Just the other day...Dean and i went to Mount Maunganui for New Year's. The day before we were to drive back to Auckland he boldly suggested that we trek up the mount...his 'convincing' argument was that the view would be amazing because it was such a clear scorcher of a day. I almost instantly started feeling ill and began freaking out since so many people had told me that it was a hard trail..to top it off i figured i'm not fit, i wouldn't be able to do it and Dean would think i was a total loser. WHAT??? When i actually took a step back and looked at the big picture i realized that none of that internal dialoque was correct and more importantly it wasn't the slightest bit helpful. So i tried my hardest to re-program...you know, like how Thomas the tank engine said "i think i can i think i can...i know i can...i know i can..." And guess what...i made it to the top...and it wasn't anywhere near as hard as i thought..And of course, the view was breathtaking.

Why are we so stifled by fear? Fear is essentially in our heads...we're scared of failure, we're scared of what people think of us. I had a deep and meaningful with a good friend the other day and he really switched on a light bulb in my head. He said we judge ourselves so harshly...and a lot of the time we assume that others will do the same because we can only go by our own standards/experiences. Judging is negative...no matter how well we know somebody we still aren't them and cannot fully predict how they think or will react to something..comparing, judging and assuming are all recipes for disaster i reckon. :)

That is my new year's resolution...to refrain from those 3 nasties. I forgot how freeing it was...i remember after Discovery camp last year. I felt perfectly balanced, supported and at peace with everything...in that environment i knew i could and was totally being myself and the people around me fully loved me for it, i did the same for them. Being a team leader for Discovery was probably one of my favourite moments in my life thus far and probably a defining one for me too. To bear witness to the transformation the teenagers went through was such a precious gift. Watching them deal with their demons made me think of how crazy it is that we harp on the negative stuff/people we encounter but just shrug it off when our loved ones tell us how awesome we are. It's amazing to see people flourish when they feel supported...i know i did. When you know that the people around you will love you regardless of whether you win or lose, triumph or fail, you will give it your all fearlessly, you have nothing to lose! You let you hair down and be silly, you banish those self conscious inhibitions and simply exist as you are!

So i'm going to tell you this very moment that you are awesome...you're loving, caring and such a pleasure to have on this planet. Thank you for being you!

Miss Deb


  1. You're right, life is amazing! We were just talking about similar things the other day too on our drive down south, but about small towns and how people from the big city rag on them. Some of these places are so unique! They are untainted by the giant Westfields and consumerism we have here. They still have their little town grocer and butcher. Plus they have the best op shops, hello! ;-)

    As cliched as it sounds, we should live life to its fullest everyday, and try and love everyone, even the unlovable, as hard as it may be! Because we aren't guaranteed any number of days on earth are we?

    Deep and meaningfuls! Haha.

    Ps. I climbed the Mount too for the first time last year! I got some brilliant Holga pics so it was well worth the perspiration!

  2. i have had a poo afternoon, and reading this made me feel so much better about myself! I am always so worried about what other people think, sometimes it gets in the way with living my life the way I want to!

    I'm so glad you walked up the mount, i haven't done it in ages, but it really is fantastic on a beautiful day!

    You are awesome, thanks for the post, I feel better already!

  3. good on you for being so brave! and I know what you mean about preconceptions; I'm going to have to try and not be so judgemental this year... and a happy new year to you, by the way :)

  4. deb you are so wise. I agree with all of the above and try my best to not assume. It truely does make an ass out of you and me xx

  5. Bee - i adore little townships, all that character. Us girls should organize a 'crafty girl roadtrip' sometime don't ya think?! X

    FaerySarah - Awww, i'm glad it brightened your day sweetpea!
    One thing important that i learned at camp was asking for support. It's funny, sometimes we think it's so trivial to say to someone i'm feeling stink, can you help me snap out of it? But it's such an easy thing to do and it's giving other's a chance to do something nice...so i say, the next time you're feeling a little down, give me a shout! X

    ruby in the dust - Happy New Year! A bit late now sorry! :) Yeah you and me both, maybe we could have a judgement jar instead a swear jar. :) X

    lily, rosemary and the jack of hearts - Hahaha, ass of u and me = assume! BRILLIANT! I'm never gonna forget that one. Thanks again for the sock people book! I'm still pouring over it...how am i meant to decide what to make next??? X


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